Dhrubajyoti Saha (Pune, India) writes about his failures in life and how he faced them.
While reading the newspaper, she looked quite confused. “You can take a year drop for your higher secondary exam, I wouldn’t mind. But take a proper decision, so that it can help you in future”, she told her son- Shiv. Shiv was surprised by what he heard from his mother. 5 hours had gone by that Shiv got his Test results before Higher Secondary Exam in which he failed in 3 out of 5 subjects.
His parents always supported him with his decisions. He was asked to score well and not to focus much on being the topper in all exams. Shiv couldn’t pass due to the tensions and struggles that had now become a part of his life. This tension was for his handicapped elder brother who being two years older than Shiv, was his junior in school. So his parents expected good results from Shiv, so that he has a bright future.
As the results were out, Shiv’s girlfriend, his very first love, left him as she thought he didn’t have a good future. But Shiv didn’t give up. “I’m ready to face this, I’ll not waste any more time. I’ll not take a year off”, thought Shiv, with tears in his eyes. He decided to study hard and improve himself. His mother supported and guided her son.
“Mom, do you have money?” this expression and it’s meaning has changed for Shiv now, 6 years after that failure. Earlier the expression meant asking for money from his mom, now it has changed to wanting to give it to her. Working as a software engineer in Asia’s largest I.T firm, Shiv now supports his family, both monetarily and emotionally. He now knows the meaning of love and the relation between love and sacrifice. He understood through his struggles in life that life gives you many hurdles, it’s you who has to cross them and overcome your failures.
Eunoia wishes Dhrubajyoti all the best for his future endeavours.
Abhishek Roy (Kolkata, India) shares the story of his struggle with us.
My father tried a lot to get me into a gym because I was a very thin and weak child, but he gracefully failed. 17th August 2015 was the day when I actually started gymming, not to become a bodybuilder but to fight my depression. ( I won’t go much into it but I’ll just let you guys know that I joined the gym only to survive and fight depression). So, it was my first day and when I met the trainer the first thing he asked me was if I was ready for the 14 days challenge. “What the hell is that?”, I asked him. His reply was simple, “Survive the pain of discipline. If you survive it then you can go through any pain in life”. After 6-7 months I realised he was right. Gymming teaches you many lessons of life and those are-
- Keep your bad attitude and over confidence out of business.
- The pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow.
- Do not stop when it hurts, stop when you’re done.
- Pain is temporary what you will gain is permanent.
- Failure is the pillar of success, if you haven’t tasted failure then you’ll never feel the happiness of success
- And lastly, excuses will never let you succeed.
What I’ve ultimately learned is “Fitness is like a marriage, you can’t cheat on it and expect it to work.”
Trust me, when I started off I used to hate the pain. I also got bullied by people because I wasn’t strong enough to lift 2.5 kg of weights on both sides of a bar and do a bench press. But my trainer kept motivating me. He said “ghayal sher jada khatarnak hota hain.. so karta ja.. hoyega ekdin” ( a wounded lion is more dangerous.. So keep going.. You’ll succeed one day). And eventually months passed by and I succeeded, it was the greatest happiness that I’ve ever felt.
What I want to tell you is that “whatever your passion is, it might be gymming , dancing, painting, music or anything that you love, never let go of your passion, work hard until you succeed.” And I’ve heard many people say that they don’t get time to follow their passion or they aren’t motivated enough, to them I want to say “24 hours makes a day, finding 2 hours for your passion is not a big deal and after those 2 hours the happiness that you’ll feel will be the greatest happiness of your life”. Now, coming to the motivation part- no one can motivate until you yourself don’t want to get motivated. A million people will say a million things but it’s up to you whether you want to get motivated or not.
The purpose was to tell you about how exercises effects your life and what it teaches you. It’ll keep you healthy, will give you positive vibes, make you strong from not only from the outside but from the inside. And most importantly, it’ll keep you happy.